Our Teenager: Changes Within
- Dana van Ness
- Feb 19, 2022
- 2 min read
Updated: Oct 23, 2022
When they are babies, they rely on caregivers for everything. With the passing of each year, they need less of the daily physical care, but they still need their adults even as they are sorting out their individuality. For those with teenagers between the ages of 13-19 years old, it is important to understand that they are undergoing a rapid transformation. Every part of their body is experiencing a major change: bones, skin and hair, organs, reproductive system, and of course, their brains.
As their prefrontal cortex undergoes further development, they will most often rely on their amygdala. The amygdala controls impulse, aggression, and emotions. So as your teen learns to navigate the world and figure out how they want to show up in it, it is common to see heightened sensitivity, outbursts, and withdrawal. Stresses within their peer circles may also contribute negatively to their emotions.
During this rough time, they need support and security. They need a space where they can expect consistency and feel accepted regardless of what is happening in the world out there. The consistency is one of the things that will help them through this rough time. Here are other things to consider:
Maintain close and supportive familial relationships. Peer relationships can be turbulent. Having strong bonds at home can help them still feel grounded and provide a sense of belonging.
Embrace this time with your teen. Why stick with and regurgitate the myths and stereotypical information? Do a bit of research on this developmental stage and apply what you learn with your teen.
Maintain household boundaries and expectations. This gets easier when you communicate in a way that lets your teen know that you understand what they are going through.
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With love from my soul to yours,
Dana van Ness, Life Coach
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